Costa Rica Part 2 – First Times

After a very busy lead-up where there were times when it looked like we just weren’t going to make it, all 12 of us, grandma, three daughters, their partners, and five grandkids ages 2-12 years, did manage to get away to Coco, Costa Rica for 8 days of sun and fun between March 31 – April 7, 2025.

This trip turned out to be very special for our family. It was exciting, full of adventure, great food, good times, and the wonderful experience of getting to know each other more intimately.

There were many “first times” for all of us. Especially the five grandchildren.

It was the first time in Costa Rica for most of the family. Only Dave (Brittany’s boyfriend) and I, had ever been there and never in this area. It was the first time to swim in the Pacific Ocean and watch the sun set over the rolling waves each night. It was our first time to experience a small active rip-tide. We were very careful!

It was the first time to ride a catamaran, snorkel in the ocean, see high-leaping manta rays fly out of the sea, and watch frisky dolphins play beside our boat. The kids and adults had fun jumping off the high deck of the ship into the ocean for their first time.

It was the children’s first time to see an iguana (more than one) and pick fresh mangoes and coconuts off a tree. The first time to see a small gecko and hear it’s funny chirps every night. First time to see toucans, jaguars, sloths, and crocodiles, and to hear and see wild howler monkeys just after dawn each morning. First time to play with saucy white-faced capuchin monkeys who leap right up to the glass at the conservatory and try to touch our faces and hands. They made us laugh! For the first time, we were surrounded by 100 or more beautiful iridescent blue butterflies. Some of them landed on our fingers and ankles.

It was the first time to hike down jungle paths, walk carefully over a suspension bridge hung in a deep gully, and leap off a cliff into the water at the base of a tall 100-metre waterfall. First time to ride on the back of an ox, eat Costa Rican casado, and hear live traditional Costa Rican musicians.

It was our first time to sit in thermal pools in the jungle, heated by underground streams leading from active volcanoes, and our first time to cover ourselves in warm, soothing mud which left our skin smooth and soft. First time to lie in a river of purity, letting the streams of rushing waters cleanse and refresh our bodies.

First time to ride a golf cart, right downtown, and do your shopping for unique souvenirs.  First time to eat delicious Costa Rican food. First time to drink a kid’s version Pina Colada. Yum! First time to eat fresh tropical fruit for breakfast every day; mangoes, papaya, guava, cantaloupe, star fruit, passion fruit, watermelon, pineapples and coconuts, bought at the local fruit stands or picked off the trees in our complex.

First time to celebrate a birthday in Costa Rica. Happy 8th birthday, Wolf! First time to lose a tooth, have Uncle Bill find it, and have the Tooth Fairy visit in Costa Rica. We spent hours in our private pool inventing first-time games of torpedo, whirlpool, I can lift Grandma on my shoulders, challenging races, How long can I hold my breath, and learning how to swim.

And best of all, for the first time, all 12 of us spent 8 wonderful days together from morning to night. We had so much fun! I want to do it again!

After our trip – Liam’s first drawing of a Toucan that he drew in response to his Gr. 7 teacher saying, “Draw me a picture of an animal you saw in Costa Rica.”

Costa Rica Part 1 – We Thought We Were Leaving

After a very busy lead-up where there were times when it looked like we just weren’t going to make it, all 12 of us, grandma, three daughters, their partners, and five grandkids ages 2-12 years, did manage to get away to Coco, Costa Rica for 8 days of sun and fun between March 31 – April 7, 2025.

We Thought We Were Leaving

This trip was to be so special. With Maegan and her family’s busy hockey schedule, and everyone working full-time at demanding jobs, it was difficult to find a period of one week that we all could get away together. All 12 of us. I decided we would go to Costa Rica and Lara and I planned the trip in the month before our chosen date.

It started out rough. It almost looked like it wasn’t going to happen. Passports were still coming in the last few days before we left for some members of the family. Wolf got very ill and was diagnosed with croup just the week before we left. Then one of his teeth chipped and there was an emergency visit to the dentist. He was informed all was okay because it was a baby tooth, very loose, and was about to fall out. To make it even more exciting, the worst ice storm since 1998 hit Saturday night, two days before we left, leaving the Fearmans cowering in their main bedroom as the world froze and crashed around them. The next morning, their yard and neighbourhood looked like a war zone. Maegan and Andrew’s area in Orillia declared a state of emergency and closed roads and highways. Trees and limbs were down everywhere and there was no hydro for many days. Andrew brewed over the idea of staying home one day to clean up the disaster. Grandma Fearman stepped in and oversaw the care of their home so they could catch the Monday flight.

The roads opened up Sunday night and we all made it to the Delta Inn near Toronto airport as we had an early morning flight Monday morning for a 9:30 a.m. departure.

In the boarding area, we were informed that our flight would be delayed by two hours due to bad weather over Florida. One and a half hours later, we were informed it had cleared and we were allowed to board the plane. With some confusion and manipulation of children and bags, we managed to get seated and buckled in.

The plane taxied into position and stopped. “Here we go!” Wilder exclaimed with anticipation. The engines revved, began their low whine, and built to a powerful roar. The plane began to accelerate down the runway and built to top speed, ready for lift-off, when suddenly BAM! the pilot locked the brakes and held the plane on the ground as we all were thrown forward. He fought to control the plane and keep it level. Quickly, too quickly, it came to a dead stop.

WHAT JUST HAPPENED?

With no explanation, we sat in nervous silence as the plane taxied back to the loading area. It was there, the pilot informed us that there had been a technical problem with one of the sensors, and we were now going to sit, refuel, and wait for engineers to come and do a mechanical check before he was going to consider trying another take-off. He had no idea how long that was going to take. We all sat patiently. Luckily, members of the family had brought food and snacks for eating on the plane as all the airline had for us was pretzels and cookies. They had warned us in the boarding area.

The technicians came, tested the plane at the dock by revving the engines once again to see the engine’s reaction, and gave us the go-ahead. They couldn’t find any problem at all. Once again, we refueled. (Who knew that planes hold a precise amount of fuel for a trip and any extra time apart from a strict flight path, burns precious fuel.) The pilot informed us, once again, that if there was a problem on take-off, we would be turning around, ending the flight, and disembarking.

We all crossed our fingers and held our breath, as the plane repeated its take-off taxi and engine rev, building to top speed once again. Once again, we were racing down the runway. With a noisy woosh, the wheels left the tarmac, the landing gear tucked into the belly of the plane, and we were airborne. The passengers burst into applause!

The rest of the flight was bumpy but uneventful. There was enough turbulence that the flight attendants wouldn’t serve hot drinks and, at times, no snacks or drinks at all, as we all stayed locked into our safety belts.

Five hours later, we arrived at Liberia Airport. Luckily, our shuttle driver was there, and took us to our villa complex after almost an hour’s drive through busy downtown Liberia. It was dark. Sunset happens early, by 6 p.m. in Costa Rica, as it sits so close to the equator. We were five hours late from our regularly scheduled arrival time of 1 p.m.

As our driver pulled up to a large steel gate, topped with barbed wire, we wondered what we were going into. Our host was there to unlock the bolted gate and welcomed us in to the courtyard and front parking area.

WE HAD ARRIVED!

As we stepped off the shuttle van, our mouths dropped open in disbelief. We were in the midst of the Garden of Eden, with palm trees, tropical mango and coconut trees, flowers, and two outdoor pools. The clay-tiled roofs of the quaint villas welcomed us. We had rented two homes in the small complex, one a 10-bed house, and the other a smaller 5-bed house. The families with children took the big house; Brittany, Dave, and I took the smaller house.

The rest of the night, we unpacked, got settled in, found a burger joint for some take-out supper, and enjoyed the pool in the hot, humid climate. The week leading up to our arrival was full of problems and troubling issues, but we were finally in Coco, Costa Rica, and we were ready to enjoy ourselves and each other.

Canada, Our Home

Photo Credit – Feminist News

With all the unbounded patriotism that is growing across our beautiful country, I decided to rework part of a piece I wrote about Canada and what it means to be Canadian.

Canada, Our Home

My home is maple trees running thick with sap in the spring.
It is flowers bravely peeping up through melting snow in bright slashes of colour.
In the summer, I float in a cool, clear lake and watch schools of fresh-water fish swim deep through underwater canyons.
Here, I stand in awe of a red, orange and gold vista that stretches across a countryside in autumn glory.
Snowflakes fall gently on my hair and eyelashes, frozen icicles sparkle in the cool sun, blankets of purity coat a white world of winter wonder.
Limestone escarpments, rushing waterfalls and towering pines compete with soaring skyscrapers and ribbons of highway that stretch from coast to coast.
This is a big country, resplendent with natural wonders and a hard-working people comfortable in their own skins. People of many colours and cultures and backgrounds. An accepting people who recognize strength in diversity, beauty in variety, and abundance in uniqueness.

This is where I belong. The cool waters run through my veins, granite and limestone form the bedrock of my soul. The spirit of my people wraps me in circles of trust and belonging. We stand tall and proud and free.

Canada. Our home.

Snow Day

It’s a Snow Day! Last night we had the biggest dump of snow that we’ve had all winter. Schools are closed for the day, and even my local YMCA and Seniors’ Centre shut down for the morning, hopefully opening by 12 noon.

How appropriate that I met a new author this week at my physio’ group class who has written and illustrated a children’s book called “Snow Day.” His name is Werner Zimmerman, and he has written a number of children’s books. Beautiful children’s books. I told him I wanted to buy them for my grandchildren.

We exchanged our books at our last meeting; he got a copy of my book “For the Love of Food: Family Edition” and I, who got the better deal by far, walked away with four of his story books: “Snow Day”, and a colourful and humorous collection of Christmas books on a Canadian theme.  

Check him out at https://wernerzimmerman.ca.

A Bad Day

“Was it a bad day?

  Or was it a bad five minutes that you milked all day?”

~Unknown

We all have bad days. My new year has not started out well. I was sick as I stepped into the first week of January, then I took my car in for a winter tire exchange only to find I needed a full brake job that cost me $1800+. My right knee, which has bothered me for years, is the worst it’s ever been, and I have started physiotherapy twice a week to try and resolve that and avoid surgery if I can.

I can look at the flip side of all these problems. Being sick stopped me in my tracks of a life that I notoriously fill to the brim with activity. I was quiet, read books, watched movies, wrote friendly e-mails, and had ample amounts of time to think about my life and my future.

We know that cars cost money. They are not an investment that keeps growing. I can rest assured that my brakes and emergency brake are now set for many years of use with no problems.

Although my physiotherapy is not easy, I have found an exercise program that works! This is my third time investing in the GLA:D program for those with identified osteoarthritis in knees or hips over several years. I attend bi-weekly and look forward to getting stronger with each session. And if it doesn’t, then I will look at surgery. I am thankful that I haven’t had to do that yet.

So, when people ask how are you, I don’t focus on my lousy beginning to my year. I say, I’m feeling great now, thank you. My car got fixed and I got extra visits in with my daughter and family as they helped me out by lending me their car over five days. Bonus! I have started my physiotherapy and I am confident that I will get stronger as the weeks pass. How lucky I am that I have access to such a program with my benefit package.

Yes, the year started out badly but it also had many benefits. I could dwell on the negatives and make myself miserable and probably all those around me as I complain constantly. Or, I could say, yay, I got through that and I move forward with expectations of good things happening. I choose what I focus on. I choose to find the positives out of negative situations and live my life with hope and gratitude. We all can do that. Choose to be happy.

Don’t Be Afraid to Dream

We all have dreams, but do we have the courage to live those dreams?

I remember a friend telling me she was too fearful to ask for love in her life because she was so afraid that if she got it, it would be ripped out of her life like a tablecloth being ripped off a table pulling all the fancy china with it. She was so afraid of achieving her dream because she was already anticipating the pain of losing it.

I told her that maybe, just maybe, the dishes will remain solidly on the table. That’s what makes it “the magical tablecloth trick.” If we never take the gamble, we will never get to experience the joy of living our dreams.

It doesn’t matter what the dream is. Maybe you desire a fancy car but won’t get it because you’re afraid it will get scratched in the parking lot or stolen. Perhaps you desire a child but can’t stomach the thought of losing that child while they are still young.  Or maybe you have a dream to travel but won’t because you’re afraid you’ll get pick-pocketed or catch some horrible disease if you do. Maybe you want a better job, but you don’t believe you’re capable of handling it.

Just dream. And start stepping towards the fulfillment of that dream. Believing it will come true and all will be well takes courage as well as an acceptance that it might not. But how will I ever know unless I take those first steps and begin the journey?

Happy New Year 2025

Waking up into the first day of 2025, I am feeling a little better after days of sickness. I think I’m on the upswing.

I’ve been hearing the word ‘resolutions’ a lot in the last 24 hours, and I have been sure that I had none for this coming year of 2025. But the more I think about it, I do have some hopes and dreams. I spent a lot of time working on my new book in 2024 and now that it’s complete, it’s time to focus on some new goals.

I am embracing my health, and have already signed up for 10 weeks of physiotherapy for my right knee that has been slowly getting worse for the last twenty years. It’s time again to work on fortifying those muscles surrounding my joints and my core and regain my strength and ability to keep moving and doing the things I want to do. I start next week with a wonderful program that I have used before called the GLA:D Program, an eight-week group exercise and educational program developed in Denmark for people with symptoms of knee or hip osteoarthritis (OA). GLA:D. stands for “Good Life with OsteoArthritis: Denmark”. It’s a very effective program, and it’s either that or surgery. I much prefer the physiotherapy.

I bought a used RV back in September 2023 and did manage to use it a few times in 2024. I plan on even more camping with family and friends and maybe even some extended road trips this coming year. I need to start planning and booking those if they’re going to happen.

I want to see more of friends and family. Years of COVID and isolation have taken its toll and this is the year that I want to step out and see people and places I’ve been missing for years. Again, it takes an effort and some pre-planning. It’s not going to happen with just a simple “One of these days, we’ll get together . . . “.

Wherever I travel, I will be taking my new book “For the Love of Food: Family Edition” with me, perhaps even doing a small book tour across parts of Canada. Again, it’s going to take some planning and organization. It won’t just happen on its own.

So, I have something to look forward to. I hope you are allowing yourself to dream and are making some plans to achieve your dreams. May 2025 be a year of fulfillment. Happy New Year!

A New Stuffing Recipe

I’ve been asked to make a double batch of stuffing for our Christmas gathering this year. The challenge I’m presented with is to make it gluten and dairy-free, as we have a couple of family members with preferred dietary choices. My old stuffing recipe that is in my new memoir/cookbook “For the Love of Food: Family Edition” will not do.

After sharing stuffing ideas with my step-sisters Audrey, Carla, and Tammy, they have inspired me to try some new ideas.

Audrey told us she uses a variety of breads for her stuffing. I bought two kinds of bread: hand-crafted gluten-free sourdough and gluten-free brioche. She also lets it sit out on the counter unwrapped for a day to dry out, but not to crispy stage. I like that and will do the same as I prefer a moister, soft stuffing.

I normally use copious amounts of butter, but this year I will be using dairy-free plant-based butter, something new for me.

My regular celery, onions, mushrooms, will be in my new stuffing. As well, I will be using eggs for binding and gluten-free chicken stock.

Audrey chooses to use fresh sage and herbs from her own garden. I will use large amounts of poultry seasoning, which is a blend of dried sage, thyme, rosemary, marjoram, white pepper, black pepper, and a tiny pinch of nutmeg for warmth. How much? I never measure. I stick my nose over the bowl and decide by scent. There’s a certain intense smell that I know when I have the right amount.

Because I’m using a sweeter brioche bread, I’m going to add dried cranberries and perhaps chopped pecans to my stuffing this year.

I normally stuff both ends of the turkey with my stuffing but I will not be cooking the turkey this year. My stuffing, this year, will be baked in a deep casserole dish, covered, as I am not a big fan of crunchy stuffing. Probably 350°F for 40-50 minutes.

I’ll let you know how it turns out.

How about you? What are some of your stuffing ideas and ingredients? Care to share them with us?

A New Book – For the Love of Food: Family Edition

For the Love of Food: Family Edition is a collection of stories and recipes praising food as a language of love through five generations of the author’s family. This memoir/cookbook is a testament to the life-giving power of food as it moves from field to table with gratitude, bonding, and celebration.

It’s a book for readers who love to cook, and cooks who love to read. Reminisce about your own mealtime memories and be inspired. Get into the kitchen and start cooking!

“This book is a beautiful reminder of how food can be a powerful vessel for preserving and sharing our most treasured family moments.””
~Amy McIntyre, Wine Educator, European Travel Planner

“A feast of joyful cooking.”
~Donna McCaw, Author, Across the Great Divide and It’s Your Time

“As she takes you down memory lane, she whets your taste buds. You’ll find yourself in the kitchen cooking up a storm immersed in your own memories.”
~Ruth Smith Meyer, Author, Out of the Ordinary and Chains of Shame

“Barbara Heagy has created a cozy, comforting read that stimulates your appetite and makes you want to get into your own kitchen and start cooking.”
~Wendy Jamieson, Chef, Restaurateur (Forage Restaurant)

“Her passion and love of food is apparent as she shares recipes and stories from her own life. Although not a professional chef, she honours food with a diverse palate and a plethora of fresh ingredients.”
~Matthew Bach Jamieson, Head Chef and Restaurateur (Mad Apples, Woodside, Forage Restaurants)

Paperback copies are available through Amazon.ca, hardcover copies through Amazon.com, or through an email message at barb_mcquarrie@hotmail.com

I’m Unraveling

I felt I hit my peak at age 50. Truly the top of the mountain. Wonderful things were happening in my life; love, career, health, opportunity but I could see the downward slope of my life in my future as I aged. One could call it a crisis. But I like Brene Brown’s take on it. It’s an unraveling. Now in the autumn of my life, I know my days here on this planet grow shorter but because of that I am less inclined to waste them. I want to enjoy every day, take on new challenges, breathe in new experiences, be who I want to be, not who others want me to be. Life is precious. Live it. Live it fully. Right to the end. BH

“People may call what happens at midlife “a crisis”.

But it’s not.

It’s an unraveling . . .

a time when you feel a desperate pull to live the life you want to live not the one you’re supposed to live.

The unraveling is a time when you are challenged by the universe to let go of who you think you are supposed to be

And to embrace who you are.”

~Brene Brown